Antonio Mulatu (M.A)
Many make rush judgments claiming that a long distance relationship does not work. Likewise, give a piece of advice to their close friends or family to quit as much as possible their long distance relationship before they get their heart broken. Though, it might be difficult and challenging it can also be possible to make long distance relationship work. The below listed points are key determinants for a long distance relationship to work.
- Smart communication: – as much as possible couples are expected to communicate with each other using different technologies but if they stick with excessive communication it is eminent for boredom feelings to emerge and that in turn will ruin their relationship.
- See it as opportunity: – “If you want to live together, you first need to learn how to live apart.” Anonymous. See this distance relationship as a fertile ground to scale up the bond between you and your partner.
- Set ground rules to manage your expectations: – make a clear discussion with your partner the level of your commitment and how you two are going to handle and act during social gather and attending parties. Do you have any fear and worries? If so, say it with clear expectations.
- Exchange love words: – the most difficult thing in a long distance relationship is that the couple misses each other. To cope up with this, exchanging love words helps a lot or fantasizing a romance they had together or a moment they are going to pass.
- Avoid risky situations: – whatever you are cautious to keep the promise you had made, sometimes external factors spark in a causal relationship. If you already know that going to the club or going drinking with your group of friends late at night will displease your partner, then you should either not do it or tell your partner beforehand so as to reassure him/her. Don’t be careless about this sort of matter because your partner is only going to be extra worried or extra suspicious, and of course, very upset, because you are putting him/her in a position where s/he feels extra powerless and not in control. Besides, if you are in relationship or married do not act like a single.
- Do similar things together: – to increase feelings of togetherness do similar things at the same time or together. Like watching movies, playing online games, listening to music.
- Visit each other: – make a plan to visit each other even for a short period of time.
- Set a goal: – having a mind goal how long you are going to stay apart and make a re-union is crucial to give hope one another. Unless one might lose patience without any disclosed goal to maintain this long distance relationship.
- Honesty: do you have any fear and suspicion regarding your long distance relationship in case unintended things to happen between you both? Please, be honest and speak about your fears to work out on your relationship.
- Stay positive: – do not make rush judgment and obsess yourself in case you partner might cheat. First be faithful to yourself and positively influence your partner.
- Enjoy a family time: – making a close attachment to your partner’s family make a distance relationship easier and accepted. Thus, exchange family situation and well-being whenever possible.
- Exchange love letter and gift: – Write love letters and exchange gifts to bridge the distance.